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What to say in a sympathy card

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Trying to figure out what to say in a sympathy card?

Here's my opinion about what to say in a sympathy card:

What to say in a sympathy card is definitely one of the biggest challenges you will face when someone you know passes away. The reason for this is that most people have trouble figuring out the right words to say in this kind of situation. It can be awkward and you can even over think what to say in a sympathy card. However, you must realize that this small gesture will have an immense impact on the grieving family. Often, people will request donations but it's important to note that a sympathy card is a perfect way to express your condolences in addition to any donation you may want to give.

You might be avoiding writing a sympathy card altogether because you just don't know what to say in a sympathy card... but don't despair! Look over these suggestions and narrow the list down to the ones that seem fitting to the situation you are in. You can use more than one of these suggestions and you can also reword these suggestions and add a little bit of yourself into it.

For religious people, these suggestions of what to say in a sympathy card may be just what you're looking for:

  • God will see you through this

  • God loves you and he's here for you. So are we.

  • We will keep you in our prayers

For those of you who are not very religious, there are other good alternatives of what to say in a sympathy card you could use that will have the same powerful effect:

  • If you need anyone to talk to, I'm here for you.

  • You and your family are in my thoughts.

  • Our sincerest condolences

  • I'm so sorry for your loss

I want to emphasize the fact that you should not over think what to say in a sympathy card. Keep it simple. You don't need to write much either... just using one of these suggestions above your names is often enough. Don't delay sending the sympathy card. Do it as soon as possible. Additionally, it would be a nice gesture to write another card after the first one where you express your support to the family left behind. It's also important to note that it's a good idea to look up cultural differences if the person you are writing to is not from the same culture as you are. They may be grieving differently. Your extra effort will definitely be noticed and appreciated. Just the fact that you took the time to read an article about what to say in a sympathy card says a lot about you.

If the individual who passed away was close to you, another great thing you could do after you figured out what to say in a sympathy card is to share a story of how that person has changed/shaped your life for the better. Share this story with the deceased individual's loved ones. I remember the quote that says something like: don't cry because it's over, be happy that it happened. In other words, you should be celebrating their life and remembering the good moments you shared together and all the qualities this person had. These kind of stories will never be forgotten by any of you and will help a lot in the grieving process. Your story will be appreciated by the family and it really will mean a lot to them. This can be just as difficult as figuring out what to say in a sympathy card but it's worth the effort.

So you have figured out what to say in a sympathy card! What alternatives do you have to the previous ideas I've shared with you? You can assemble all kinds of photographs and quotes that will touch the surviving family or that pertains to the deceased person. It could be anything really. Ideally, it would be pictures of happy times you have shared together of course. You can also do something like this for yourself. You don't necessarily have to give it to the deceased's family. Little comments that you could add to this that may help in the grieving process are things that remind the family or remind you of something really good about that person. Maybe they were always helping in making people laugh or they were really a good father, etc... This kind of a reminder is another great idea you should consider when you try to figure out what to say in a sympathy card.

If you're wondering what to say in a sympathy card for someone you never really knew... maybe a sympathy card is not the best option. The best thing to do in this case is to tell the surviving family that you are there for them. Even better, don't just tell them that, show them. Actions speak louder than words. Lend a helping hand to them. They're going through a tough time and even something as little as being a good listener in a time of need goes a long long way. Good news though in cases like these: you don't need to know what to say in a sympathy card!

If on the other hand you'd like to know what to say in a sympathy card to pet owners who have recently lost a pet... follow the same guidelines above and don't be shy to say your condolences to them. Pets are very important to people and they are even considered family to some. People share a lot of great memories with their pets and grow very attached to them so you could theoretically give as much importance to the passing away of someone's pet than someone's relative. Again, all you would have to do is use one of the suggestions above along with your signature in a card. This little act will be greatly appreciated and will help the pet owner with their grieving. In other words, what to say in a sympathy card to a pet owner is similar to what to say in a sympathy card for a human.

One more point I want to make before I finish this article about what to say in a sympathy card is that you should always opt for an actual physical card when it comes to sympathy cards. Avoid at all costs using things like e-cards because they hold a lot less weight in the eyes of the receiver... Also, make sure you give this card as soon as you hear about the death but don't hesitate to send it later if you find out late. People keep these things for a long time and come back to them when they need to and it really does help. If this article about what to say in a sympathy card has helped you, please share it with your friends and family or anyone else who may find it useful! Thank you for reading!




Oct 21, 2011 8:13am
However hard it is to send a sympathy card, the value to the recipient outweighs the difficulty. It really means a lot to a person/family to know someone cares enough to bother to send a card and, as you so rightly point out, you don't need to write a lot - and it's best if you keep the message short and sincere, as you stated. A really nice article.
Nov 8, 2011 6:07am
Exactly JudyE! Even more important than some silly sympathy card is the simple fact that you stand by them when they need you. Just be there for them in times of need and they will never forget this.
Dec 15, 2011 9:03pm
Your article gives good advice for those who are sending sympathy cards.
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