Are you looking for a good example after being asked to read a eulogy? Write your own or buy one...it can be a difficult, but expensive choice. However, writing your own is a veritable option—and one that you can definitely do. Don't hesitate—no matter how well you knew them or otherwise, you still do your own eulogy write, without any problem. So, here are a few tips to help you work on a eulogy for your special loved one!
Think Over Your Special Memories
If you plan on doing a eulogy write by yourself, then you need to think over your favorite and best memories. Let's face it—there are loads of things that you're going to remember all of a sudden—and that others are going to ask you about. It's one of the funny things about shock—you have NO idea what you'll all of a sudden remember just before or around the funeral. Don't hesitate to write down anything that you remember. There are so many things that you can include on a eulogy write.
Don't Hesitate to Put ANYTHING in the Eulogy
It's alright to make a funny during a eulogy write, especially if the person was hysterically funny. But, keep it safe and keep it polite. Don't mention any moments that would be dishonoring to their family or make anyone think less of them—but do put your best memories and representation of their character and your memories of them. The most important thing? Remember how much you loved/liked them. Even if you weren't their favorite person or they weren't yours...you have many different ways that you can express what you did like and enjoy about them. This is the kind of stuff that you need to include in the eulogy write.
Talk With Other Family Members
Maybe you haven't seen them in a few months or a few years and so you haven't really had time to catch up and you're looking for a lot more information as far as what to write about in the eulogy write. Well, don't worry—there are a few ways around that. Just ask their friends and your relatives or vice versa. There are so many things that you may not remember that they might. Just take a day—a nice, relaxing, long day and talk with a few people about what they remember best. This is the kind of stuff that you can put in a eulogy write—what you know and love about them and what you want others to know about them. This is important, mainly because it brings EVERYONE to full circle about how special they were and how much they'll be missed throughout the ages. This is the kind of stuff that you DEFINITELY need to do.
Don't Forget the Little Things
It doesn't matter how big or how little the person may have been—remember the little things. Remember that their favorite food was jam. Remember that their favorite types of pizza had pineapple, pepperoni, and jelly on top. This is the kind of thing that you'll think about just a few weeks later with a wry smile and think “Yep...that was them.” Never, ever forget the little things. It might not seem like much at the time—but that's what you'll treasure forever and ever. Don't hesitate to add it to your eulogy write.
Write From the Heart
This is something that a lot of people forget while they're writing a eulogy. Write like you're talking to them—like you're telling them what they meant to you. Use the exact words that you would use if they were right beside you. This will give you not only a better idea of what you say exactly—but it will also allow you to truly feel what you're saying. This is something that gets difficult—you don't want to break down while reading or writing the eulogy, because it's hard...it's painful. But that's fine. Everyone is feeling a little down and they'll completely understand why your eulogy write would make you break down—don't feel bad about showing your feelings.
Cry, If You Feel The Need
As stated above—if you feel the need to cry while reading your eulogy write, don't hesitate to. It's natural—it's something that people don't realize that they need to do. We're taught that tears are shameful—and that they're for wimps and children. But, when you lose a loved one, sometimes that's the best thing to do...even if it's at what seems like the most inopportune time. There is no shame in tears—even if your eulogy write is COVERED with tears....it simply shows that the person you're mourning over was well-loved and will be missed dearly.
Remember Them Even After the Service
The time for remembering isn't just during the eulogy write. It isn't just during the funeral—keep your eulogy write. It will remind you of the time that you honored them with your kind words and your special memories. Never ever forget that they were someone special in your life and you had the honor to know them. This is a mistake that far too many people make...it's an attempt to make themselves feel better, but in the end it only makes things that much worse. Remembering is the best thing you can possibly do.
Collaborate before the Funeral
There's no shame in collaborating on your eulogy write. Perhaps you're going to see a professional eulogy writer for help, but you aren't sure that they'll be able to do the loved one justice. Then, at this point, you should simply try to join together and work things out on the eulogy write with the professional. You can provide the memory and they can provide the wording.
Take your time with the eulogy write. You have just a few days...but you need to take as much time as necessary to get it right in those few days. Take one day to write and one or two to edit if necessary. The editing time is important—it allows you to not only add to it or to change things...but to make it the best eulogy write possible