Change, although a broad term comes in many forms. Whether it is the day-to-day stress of working and supporting the family, the death of a loved one, moving to a new city, graduating from school or getting married, change produces stress. But avoiding change because we fear stress will not always save us. Like the wise Master Yoda once said, “Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.” While our fear won’t grant us the power of the force, it will lead us to the dark side. Change will occur whether we accept it or not. Without a proper way to manage change many will become consumed by their fear and fall into depression. Depression is a nasty foe, and once you have faced it in battle, it will become a persistent enemy.
Illogical Nature of Human Emotion
The Key Is Acceptance
Coping with change is not really that hard. As we saw with the driving example, we have the ability to accept change; we just need to stop ourselves from getting distracted. The first and most important step is accepting that change is going to occur. Preventing change is like trying to stop the sun from rising. When we feel we cannot alter or avoid something we usually come to terms and accept it. Change, like everything will become normal if we experience it enough. Just as the Midwest accepts the arrival of freezing winters, they either accept it or accept that they hate it and leave. Fixating on the problems that have already occurred often focuses our mind on the negative of each situation, setting up a programmed response to future change. Accept that you cannot change what has occurred or what might occur. Process that pain and move along. Cry, yell and let it out. Once the maelstrom of emotion dwindles, you will realize obsessing over something you are powerless to change is not productive. You will return to the logical mechanism that is present within each of us and move on. With every negative outcome, we should be able to locate a nearly equal positive outcome. In time, you can do this. Remember, accept what you cannot change and embrace the unknown.
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